so, a couple of weeks ago meg came home complaining that there was a boy in her class who continuously bugged & bothered her. nothing serious, not bullying, just being a general pest. so i told her that sometimes little boys bug girls they like. she grinned and seem to take it rather well.
yesterday, she came home in a bucket of tears. the same boy had been pestering her at recess, and when she wouldn't respond how he wanted, he growled at her, "i hate you!". for all her own bluster, meg has a sensitive little heart, and was so sad! so she came home and we sort of talked it over, and she decided to write him a note.
it was a very nice, sincere apology. she said that his words hurt her feelings, and she was sorry that she hadn't just told him that they were playing princesses. it was very conciliatory... right up til the P.S. which said, in very careful & swoopy cursive, "you may already know this, but boys are mean to the girls they LOVE!"